The 8 biggest sex red flags that mean you’re heading for divorce… and why a steamy 10pm session is NOT good news

EVER wondered if you and your partner are having enough sex? Well, you’re not alone.

Shockingly, nearly 9 in 10 couples feel like they’re not getting enough, according to a recent study.

Knife cutting a pink wedding cake between bride and groom figurines. — There are eight sex red flags that mean your marriage could be on the rocks, according to a sex expertCredit: Getty

Portrait of a woman in a teal dress. — Kate Taylor, a relationship and sex expert, has revealed what sex can tell you about the health of your marriage – from how often you do it to what timeCredit: Stewart Williams – The Sun

According to Kate Taylor, a relationship and sex expert, your sex life can be a powerful indicator of your overall relationship health.

But how little is too little? And when does a dry spell become a red flag for your relationship and marriage?

She told Fabulous: “If you’re worried about your relationship, start by looking at your sex life.

“There are certain signs in the bedroom that suggest all is not well and a divorce may be on the horizon.”

Here, she shares eight major red flags that could signal trouble ahead…

1. You do it less than once a month

Most UK couples have sex once a week.

If you’re having sex once a month or less, it might be a sign you’re not connecting outside the bedroom either.

Don’t panic, though – outside factors like work, health or parenting can impact your frequency.

But if your calendar is wide open yet your desire is shut down, it might be a bad omen.

2. Your frequency suddenly changes

Most couples start off like rabbits and end up like sloths.

It’s usual for desire to wane gradually over a relationship – but if it dramatically drops off, sound the alarm bells.

I had a sex battle with my man to find out who has the highest libido

Think back to the last time you had sex: what has happened since then? Did you have a row, or a bad date?

Are tensions simmering underneath a calm surface? Dig deep – one of you might be harbouring a grudge.

3. You can’t climax

Lesbian couple's feet intertwined under a duvet. — Not being able to orgasm is a major warning sign for your relationshipCredit: Getty

Not being able to orgasm can be a side effect of medications (like some antidepressants) or health problems (like stress).

But it can also signal a lack of desire and a loss of interest.

It might also suggest that one or both of you is satisfying themselves with an outside temptation, like pornography.

4. Only after 10pm

Is sex the last chore on your list? You’ve cooled off.

In a happy relationship, both of you should occasionally be swept away on a naughty impulse, grabbing the other person for a quickie at 7am, 3pm or even the middle of the night.

If neither of you are spontaneous at all, and need hours of stimulation before you even think about sex, that might suggest you’ve lost that make-lovin’ feeling.

5. You fantasise

It’s natural to think sexy thoughts about other people occasionally. That’s not a sign your relationship is on the rocks.

But if you only fantasise about outsiders, I’d start worrying.

Similarly, if you prefer DIY rather than having full sex, you might have emotionally withdrawn from your other half.

6. Sex feels like a chore

A middle-aged couple lies back-to-back in bed after an argument. — Couples should address any issues between them to keep the spark aliveCredit: Getty

Are you having sex to connect with your partner, or just to scratch an itch?

Are you cuddling up after you’ve climaxed, or immediately turning your back and scrolling through your phone?

Or, if you’re worried your partner has lost interest, how are they acting after you’ve bonked – warm and attentive, or distant and aloof?

When aftercare becomes an afterthought, it can be a sign you’re not emotionally bonded.

7. You need a drink

Reaching for a bottle of massage oil before sex = green flag. Reaching for a bottle of booze = red flag.

Needing alcohol to get intimate is a signal something is off – you might be stressed, bored, annoyed, or not bothered.

Or you might be repressing something bigger, like feeling abused or frightened. Don’t ignore any of these clues.

It might be a good idea to talk things through with a sex therapist or a counsellor.

8. They annoy you, even during sex

When we’re overcome with passion, we don’t notice if our partner hasn’t brushed their teeth, is wearing hideous pants, or hasn’t changed the sheets in a year.

We are consumed with lust.

But when indifference has crept in, you’ll remain alert to all those minor niggles.

This is usually caused by unaddressed resentments or not trusting your partner.

So either address those issues, or prepare to part ways.